Chronic Migraine, Coping


“Pretending to be happy when you’re in pain is just an example of how strong you are as a person.” When I first came across that quotation on Facebook, I wrote a rather clumsy post about it. Once the anger wore off, I was able to write about it in a gentler, more nuanced way. To read a less dogmatic perspective, take a look at Pretending to Feel Fine, which was published on today. Here’s an excerpt:

[This approach] seemed to work. I did well in school and at work, I made new friends. My friends, co-workers, bosses and even family didn’t pity me when I increasingly canceled plans, didn’t follow through on promises, or didn’t return phone calls. They merely thought I was flaky, unreliable, self-centered and uncaring. No one understood my behavior as a consequence of debilitating illness. How could they when they didn’t know how sick I was?

2 thoughts on “Pretending”

  1. T I am still surprised after all these
    years on how other people react to individuals
    who suffer with chronic migraines. But thru
    your posts and others-now realize it is just not
    how others react to me-but to other fellow
    migraineurs as well. And the extreme measures us
    migraineurs will go thru to hide our condition.
    To everyone-“Thy own self be true.
    Thankyou Kerrie for this post.

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