“Pretending to be happy when you’re in pain is just an example of how strong you are as a person.” When I first came across that quotation on Facebook, I wrote a rather clumsy post about it. Once the anger wore off, I was able to write about it in a gentler, more nuanced way. To read a less dogmatic perspective, take a look at Pretending to Feel Fine, which was published on Migraine.com today. Here’s an excerpt:
[This approach] seemed to work. I did well in school and at work, I made new friends. My friends, co-workers, bosses and even family didn’t pity me when I increasingly canceled plans, didn’t follow through on promises, or didn’t return phone calls. They merely thought I was flaky, unreliable, self-centered and uncaring. No one understood my behavior as a consequence of debilitating illness. How could they when they didn’t know how sick I was?