Chronic Migraine, Coping

Getting Out & About (and Lessening Migraine’s Hold on Me)

Nudging my limits instead of automatically assuming I can’t do something has already lessened migraine’s hold on me. Not only am I getting to the gym a few times a week and picking up the Kindle when I think I can read, I’ve recognized that I’m never trapped in a situation or place if a migraine strikes. It may be unpleasant to leave a restaurant mid-meal or to get a taxi when I planned to take the subway home (neither of which I’ve had to do), but I always have options.

In the last 10 days, knowing this has given me so much freedom. I’ve gone to a few restaurants, a craft fair and an opening at an art museum. Hart and I met his college lab partner, her husband and their daughter for brunch. I visited a neighborhood I’m interested in living and spent a few minutes at a park with a pond (that’s where Hart took the photo). I was usually loaded with Maxalt, Midrin and/or naproxen, but I enjoyed myself and didn’t ruin anyone else’s time.

I’m still entirely dependent on other people to get out, though. Someone is always with me when I go out. Friends and family have been staying with us most of the time since Thanksgiving. When they aren’t, Hart is by my side. He drives me to appointments, even though he has to leave work at inconvenient times to do so. He also happily explores the city with me, often knowing we won’t get out of the car. I’m so fortunate to have such an amazing husband.

Yet Miss Independent has been down too long. It is time to start exploring the world (or at least going to the grocery store) alone. That’s the next step to getting the real Kerrie back. I plan to take myself to an appointment on Wednesday. It isn’t too far away and parking is easy. I know how to get there. The doctor runs on time and the appointment will only last 20 minutes. I think know I can do this.

Do you have any suggestions for making steps toward independence after illness has kept you down?

4 thoughts on “Getting Out & About (and Lessening Migraine’s Hold on Me)”

  1. Hello, don’t know if its appropriate,

    Do you people take your Magnesium??
    I had serious migranes(and still do)
    but I control them with topical magnesuim, riboflavin(b-2) and several grams of feverfew
    used pre-emptivly. taking all those heavy pharma products is gonna mess with you sooner or later.

    try it and see if things don’t get more managable
    ps magnesium is best absorbed in magnesium chlorate used on your skin after shower or before workout. magnesium oxide taken orally only 4% is absorbed. see the miracle of magnesium(book)

  2. We are incredibly fortunate to have friends and spouses who understand and help us. I simply cannot imagine going through this without support. That includes wonderful blogs like yours.

    I’m so glad to know you are getting out more and that Miss Independent is ready to explore. I agree with Willo that making something on your own is always fun and not setting impossible goals is important. Redecorate something small in your home, maybe, or begin (or restart) a hobby you can leave and come back to later (no pressure). You will be excited about getting the supplies when you go out.

    You go, girl! We’re all right there with you!

  3. I am currently in one of those kept down moments, but I always like to start back into things with someone by my side so I know that they can take me out of situations quicker than I could by myself.

    I’m also a huge fan of making things.

    I’m happy for you! Post of your successes so I can live vicariously through you! Come visit me over at It’s Time To Get Over How Fragile You Are!

  4. I think choosing something you know you can do by yourself is the key. Like your doctors appointment. If I try to do something that is too hard and it doesn’t work out it can set me back. The next time I might not want to risk it even if it’s not that big of a risk. Fear and doubt set in.

    I’m also a big fan of making something. Even if I need help getting the things together to make it or even if it takes a really long time, I feel accomplished when I have created something by myself. Plus I may not have to leave the house to do it. The only catch is learning not to feel guilt when you can’t work on it. Not setting any deadline can help with that.

    Keep it up girl! You are brave. It may not seem like much to others but I am impressed.

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